Relationships/Dating Violence

MYTH

SOMEONE NEEDS TO BE IN CONTROL OF THE RELATIONSHIP, YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO ABUSE YOUR PARTNER IF YOU’RE JEALOUS OR PROVOKED IN SOME WAY.

FACT: NO ONE DESERVES TO BE ABUSED. JEALOUSY IS NOT AN EXCUSE FOR ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR. THERE’S NO EXCUSE FOR ABUSE!

MYTH

I WAS DRUNK, I DIDN’T KNOW WHAT I WAS DOING, DRINKING MAKES ME ABUSE.

FACT: ALCOHOL OR CHEMICAL USE DOES NOT CAUSE SOMEONE TO BE ABUSIVE, IT’S AN EXCUSE.

MYTH

NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO BUTT INTO YOUR RELATIONSHIP, EVEN IF ONE PERSON IS ABUSIVE. PEOPLE SHOULD MIND THEIR OWN BUSINESS.

FACT: ABUSE SHOULD NEVER BE IGNORED! PEOPLE WHO ARE ABUSIVE NEED TO BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE FOR THEIR BEHAVIOR. THE PERSON BEING HURT HAS THE RIGHT TO BE IN A SAFE AND RESPECTFUL RELATIONSHIP.

MYTH

IT’S OKAY FOR ONE PERSON TO MAKE ALL OF THE DECISIONS IN A RELATIONSHIP.

FACT: IN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP, BOTH PEOPLE SHARE IN DECISION MAKING AND RESPECT EACH OTHER’S THOUGHTS AND IDEAS.

MYTH

ONLY MINORITIES GET ABUSED!

FACT: ABUSE KNOWS NO BOUNDARIES. IT CAN HAPPEN TO ANYONE, NO MATTER WHAT YOUR SEX, RACE, RELIGION, ECONOMIC STATUS OR SEXUAL ORIENTATION.

MYTH

I LOVE MY PARTNER, I’M THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN HELP! I CAN MAKE HIM/HER CHANGE.

FACT: BEING ABUSIVE IS A CHOICE, AN ABUSER MUST ACKNOWLEDGE THEIR CHOICES AND GET HELP, YOU CAN’T CHANGE SOMEONE ELSE’S BEHAVIORS.

If you feel that you or someone you know may be in an abusive relationship there are places you can go for help. Telling someone about the abuse can be a very difficult thing to do but these places and the people who work there can make it easier for you. They care about you and want you to get them help you need.

Local Resources for Domestic Abuse
Hennepin County
Domestic Abuse Project (DAP) 612-874-7063
Corner Stone 952-884-0330
Carver/Scott County
Southern Valley Alliance for Battered Women 952-873-4214
National/State Resources for Domestic Abuse
The National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233
MN Domestic Violence Crisis Line 651-646-9622
Battered Women’s Shelter 1-866-223-1111
Local Sexual Violence Crisis Centers
Hennepin County
Sexual Violence Center 612-871-5111
Rape and Sexual Abuse Center 612-825-4357
Carver/Scott County
Sexual Violence Center 952-448-5425

If you need additional resources, or resources for different counties in MN please feel free to call WSTC at 952-474-3251 or e-mail us at info@westsuburbanteenclinic.org.

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